First, the bad news: Sexual, physical, and emotional abuse occurs in Orthodox Jewish communities.

Next, the worse news: Although there is no evidence that such abuse occurs more frequently among the various Orthodox segments of society than in other populations, two recent front-page New York Times stories are just the latest piece of evidence that Orthodox communities are often in denial and worse.

Rabbis and communal leaders often seek to save the community from embarrassment and, in so doing, protect the perpetrators. If children complain of being abused, their parents may silence them, or, if their parents complain too, their neighbors harass them to prevent their going to the police, claiming a religious prohibition on giving Jews up to secular authorities. Indeed, the official policy of the charedi organization Agudath Israel of America is that school teachers or administrators who suspect abuse must ask a rabbi before going to secular authorities, New York State laws notwithstanding.

There is also good news: Even as denial and stonewalling continue, the Orthodox conversation about abuse is gradually changing; and so is people’s behavior. Mental health professionals say that Orthodox parents, who in the past would have tried to deny abuse or keep it hush-hush, are now defending victimized children more actively. True, some school principals and community leaders continue to put pressure on parents to keep silent; but many Orthodox communities have sprouted activists who serve as “go-to” people in cases of abuse, while such organizations as JSafe provide additional resources for concerned communities and individuals concerned. The Bais Yaakov girls’ high school in Baltimore has even published a child safety protocol for both school staff and parents.

Positive change, however, cannot occur without education, and three recent but very different books that attempt to tackle the horrors of sexual, emotional, and physical abuse among Orthodox Jews suggest that that education is becoming more available, if not exactly commonplace.

In the first book, “Abuse in the Jewish Community” (Urim), Michael J. Salamon, a psychologist with vast experience in treating Orthodox Jewish abuse victims, has written a readable guide for laypeople. Salamon offers definitions of abuse and describes signs that should indicate to parents, teachers, and school officials that abuse might be occurring. He provides basic information about available methods of treatment and discusses the unique cultural conditions in the Orthodox community that make prevention and treatment so difficult.

Critically, the book explains without apology that the ideology of da’at Torah, which accords great rabbis sole authority over communal decisions, can make the problem of abuse worse: Laypeople can consult rabbis for advice if they suspect abuse, but the rabbis are unqualified to offer such advice.

Psychologist and activist David Mandel has co-edited, together with a Yeshiva University professor, David Pelcovitz, “Breaking the Silence: Sexual Abuse in the Jewish Community” (Ktav). Aimed more at educational and mental health professionals, this book manages to be accessible without losing its clinical and academic value. Within its 12 chapters, the book analyzes interviews with abuse victims; suggests ways in which abuse can be prevented before it occurs; debunks the suggestion that there is a halachic problem with reporting abuse; and offer analysis of clinical treatments for perpetrators.

One argument in it is particularly startling: The book recommends that when a suspected abuser cannot be convicted and imprisoned, the Orthodox community should not expel the suspect, lest he simply continue his predatory behavior elsewhere. Instead, the community should keep him within its confines and away from children, and maintain a close watch.

The most surprising of these recent books, however, and perhaps the most important in the long term, is addressed to the potential victims themselves; in other words, to the children. The charedi publishing house ArtScroll-Mesorah has teamed up with Agudath Israel to produce a new children’s book called “Let’s Stay Safe.” Each page presents an attractive, colorful illustration and short rhyming poem – instructing Orthodox children to wear a bicycle helmet or not talk to strangers – the usual child safety primer material.

Then, however, come two surprising pages. “Even someone we know/ And like very much,” they say, “Shouldn’t touch us in ways/ We don’t want them to touch./ And if I’m not sure/ If the touch was right or wrong/ I’d ask my Daddy or Mommy/ And not wait too long!” The illustration shows a child sharing with his parents his concern about an unpleasant interaction behind a bunk at summer camp; the concerned parents are shown listening to and supporting the child.

The magic of this book is the way it broaches the topic of sexual abuse without making a big deal about it. While avoiding a debate over who is to blame, ArtScroll quietly acknowledges that friends, teachers, or camp counselors may be predators and suggests that the solution to the problem is straightforward, honest information.

The change is coming slowly, but there is no doubt that it is in progress.

JTA/Jewish Ideas Daily